The rights of the child sissy, transexual and fem boys

Sometimes we can be a little superficial, even "fun" in a way here but in the at times tortured history of this blog there have been more serious topic and moments.

Few things concern me more than the situation a good number of children who don't fit the current girl/boy, masculine and feminine roles and modes most of their peers do fighting pressures from other children, parents and "the powers that be" whole draw up rules and socially acceptable codes of behaviour and dress.

Labels and associated images do concern both parents and "the powers that be" then and in discussing this those who say "but you cannot label a child "that".

Well a child may be exhibiting any number of traits from wanting or even playing by themselves more as the opposite sex or dressing more in the manner of the opposite sex and yes we all go under the Transgender catch all umbrella as after all at that age especially we're exploring who we are.

It may be in time you realize you're a transexual, you may be a "femboy" but before I was in double digits growing up I knew I was something else - a Sissy - and saying that is for some shocking but let's remember as a child you'd not be thinking, hey even  knowing of the adult sexual side of that.

Plus in any event some sissies are either mainly or even not sexually minded whatever you might see on social media and the adult services might suggest.

You didn't think you were a girl but you sure as heck wanted to dress the  same, play the same games as them rather than feeling you had to be something that felt you were play acting rather badly.

Thus I called myself a young child a "Sissy" I'm happy to be that same person today and let's get this straight nobody wishes to project sexuality on to that child even if as they get older they may like any teenager discover more of their own sexuality and that (it shouldn't need to be said) it's wrong for *any* adult to be thinking around never mind having a sexual relationship with a child regardless of gender and sex.

I did dress in a more girl like fashion whenever I had the opportunity, "borrowing" things, both outer wear and underwear whenever I could I would play more girlish games - playing torturing the enemy with the boys wasn't someting I really enjoyed at all.

I preferred hopscotch, role playing situations like school or shop and jump rope to any of that macho stuff.

Thus to me I feel any child should be able to explore and be themselves at home, from from being humiliated, emotionally abused or even being grounded for being a sissy.

The second area is even if you've been lucky to had attended a fairly liberal nursury or play ground that did let you were dresses nearly all school presume it is boys/girls, feminine or masculine dress and games and you may not fit that.

As that young sissy I wanted to wear a skirt or a school dress, may be a traditional pinafore dress in school with the matching socks and maybe a ribbon in my hair rather than being called horrible names by male teachers or finding when you complained about being excluded from playing with girls or playing games where you would rather join in a netball class than football or cricket you were told to shut up and stop whinging.

You should of been free to have your own friends determined by what you had in common rather than your biological sex.

That's something that is slowly starting to change a set back or two excepted.

Another area is children's organizations which we'd all admit need to be concerned with the wider topic of child protection even potentially from other children and while we'd accept they are entitled to have mainly girl or boy focuses.

Scouting in the U.K. is co-ed which ought to be fine for a child who sees themselves as being transexual, a fem boy, or like I did a sissy but the uniforms don't have skirt or dress options looking more like we've been let into boy scouts.

It shouldn't be about gatecrashing the world most children and parents are at one with but about toleration, adjustment where necessary and mutual respect are at the core of it so all children are able to be who they truly are no matter where they are.

No we don't expect flimsy party wear to be worn at a cubs session or especially on outdoor activities but where is there a skirted option?

The Girl Guides is straight forward - it is expressly for girls although those living like girls whatever the label may join - but that in the environment we live in where school may not be accommodating, sports may not accept any deviation from traditional sex based roles the bar may be too high to meet with evidence.

Perhaps an agreement about how you present, you name, your uniform option to provide continuity for the girls that do cos we must respect how they feel as much being about our own kind and an understanding we need to accept we are in girl space and let them run it mainly for them as much as they may be prepared to be kind and tolerant to us would be a way forward.