A few thoughts

 We're rough this week with a bad infection so haven't been very active anywhere really  but here's a few thoughts.

Every day starts out pretty much as any other for most of us unless we're planning on going somewhere special we follow routines feeling confident that today will be like yesterday and no doubt tomorrow with a change here or there but otherwise of itself uneventful.

So it's hardly a surprise we become accustomed to the idea that everything will remain 'just so' which to be honest is one thing I sure loved when I was younger, the whole certainty with its sense of well-being from repeating that pattern week after week.

Every so often though, something comes along and knocks it over. You feel lost if not numb and bewildered too as it seemed to going along so well.

It is okay to feel that way, sad things happen, we hurt and a good number of us are hurting right now. 

I can't speak for all of you but things often seem to go in cycles and my last lot of cycles have seen me  do different things, learn and improve on skills that I've struggled with, form new and more helpful friendships and understand more about myself and others too.

All those things can and are helping me deal with this because they've given not only ears to listen and understand how I may feel but also the strength to carry on when I just feel like lying there crying (and I know that feeling so well).

You know, those we miss so much would never of wanted us to stay like that forever and you might imagine this friendly nudge coming out urging you on, reminding you can start again, even if we find it hard.

Personally, I feel it's helpful to think about those things that I have reason to be thankful for over the years from the situations that just appeared from nowhere and to which I had no real plan for. 

Just thinking about it, my life has changed quite a lot in the last ten years for the better and much of that isn't down to some super medical recovery on my part but more because I've been working on dealing with more how it's handed out to me, making the most of it smiling even through some of the Meh moments.

It is easy to get into a cycle of beating yourself up when things aren't going to plan, thinking we are useless (been there and done it) or feeling guilty over things that maybe we didn't have that much of a say over but I'm going to try to get on with life the best I can from now on.

That's a much of lesson from my childhood that I can use today and maybe it's of some use to you.

Clues from the past

 

Time was both girls and boys did wear dresses at least until the age of five because it was easier to change babies and infants in dresses before boys would be "breeched" aka put into trousers and treated more as males.

It didn't always run to that model with boys remaining in dresses for longer as this picture shows but he looks so good  in it and yet it's not "soppy" nor are his toys as he is  just a boy in a dress.

I just love it.

Today you can be just you as you wish to be and that's what is going on bit by bit little or more middle.

Helping me change

 You dodge topics, even agree sometimes they can be over played and over present but there's little point in denying elements of sissy life do include spanking which might be more from a little sissy angle rather like the childhood spankings we had or they may come in the more adult sissy role although let's be straight we're not talking about children today nor are we saying that welfare even as legal adults doesn't matter - it does hugely.

As we are between all sorts of posts looking more at getting out from just a classic schoolgurl look then  spanking can come in either for resisting exploring other sides like dressing more like a older teen or young woman or maybe in being dressed in more overly feminine frilly forms well out of your comfort zone.

Spanking need not involve the use of external implements just a firm hand literally can make an impression as you position me over a chair or over your own knee.

Given you'd NEVER have me in trousers it's just so easy for you to flip my skirt up and start spanking my bottom before you take my frilly knickers down to really turn it red before ordering me up scolding me further with them still down well on display just to keep the humiliation up beyond the stinging behind.

This is what a changing Tammy NEEDS - SPANKING 

DO PLEASE SUPPORT IT

Moving on

Sometimes on this blog I feel I get stuck in a rut we need to move a little out of and perhaps talk a little more around.

For most of us, we progress as our ages get older as much as I feel being grown up somewhat overrated and often cuts outs things that have good reason to remain in your life such as your interests and yes how you might present.

Our formative influences include our parents, the wider family, peers and school with our parents and the wider family being the biggest one as from the moment we were born, they dressed us, as we got older that changed but for most people, in your teens your peers and "fashion" count for more as you establish more of your own sense of self.

There tends to be a "battle of wills" and for most, you win but usually with some concessions to your parents concerns.

It's different for anyone who is transexual or like me, a sissy cos in most situations your parents will deny it, certainly won't do anything sensible like channel  that more like that our your peers which for many us of who were "assigned" as male they'd of developed a whole look so by the time comes they're ready to leave school they resemble more a "Young Woman".

We never did and I know speaking personally a part of my problem lies in just not developing a sense of being feminine sissy me that was closer to that of girls who were growing up when all I saw was the more obvious schoolgirl and my obsession with trying be more like her.

Really what I needed was assistance with learning to dress outside of a school context as a growing up gurl who might go parties, visit the cinema with friends as a confident young thing and that's where having some support from Mums, sisters and the like would of helped as they'd us develop that sense of older gurl that corresponded to older girl, more like an adult.

I need to learn to get that right as much as it's appropriate at other times to dress more like a schoolgirl and still at others as gurl with a sexual side when I feel that way.

There are many looks and really I need to widen them from now on for every situation and role.

Going forward

The last few days frankly haven't been great ones with me, not least with a three day mega migraine period that really scrambled my brain but sometimes it is worth asking a few basic questions of yourself as this sissy.

You can do all of this in a number of ways and the only golden rules are wearing lingerie that is feminine all the time as after all females have and use so many different modes of dressing depending on what they are really trying to achieve.

I've always had two sides, one a work in progress which is a more full on grown up sissy side that has sexual elements  and another separate side which is really regressing back into various points in my childhood but being dressed and doing the sorts of things more like a girl would do rather than what we were coerced into.

Part of this age regression is a coping mechanism being literally the child-like with vulnerabilities me working within what I can actually cope with rather than pushing so hard at appearing to act more grown up and sophisticated I am left to cope with what I can't with no support and guidance and part is coping with how the nervous breakdown affected me.  

I am wearing more child-like attire privately such as school uniform as it helps to lift me more into that headspace and less likely to be 'read' as a fully grown up sissy and in that regressed role nothing like that ever happens.

We have tidied this blog up as it was rather messy and a spanking might well of been justified for leaving it like so but the main emphasis remains on that little sissy side  here and rather more on my interests 

I am and remain a little sissy gurl who likes to wear skirts and dresses and has a dominant feminine side not transgendered but also sharing the odd mainly masculine trait, happy to be so but when the adult sissy wishes to come out then she can.

Play

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So it's Wednesday and we're looking a bit about what underscores being the little sissy side as sometimes it gets lost in bigger kinky play or seen as a bit odd for the fact you are quite happy to do what most others feel strongly they've outgrown and just what the hell is wrong with you?

Well for us it's about enjoying a time and space away from the things we may have to do like work and wash the dishes ourselves but for sissies it's often about recreating a time where sadly we were not able to be ourselves.

It may be on our own in room you've dedicated to that perhaps buying some of the toys, dollies and things you were denied but your sisters and female cousins had that you longed to play with.

Or perhaps a few of you can meet up, sort some food and play for a day or two as so many of us missed out on it. We may even of hated the play dates we were made to have with boys and their ways instead.

Now some may put that in the context of someone else "having you do that" which isn't what we are talking about but those "made to" things could never really work without you actually wanting it anyway.

Sometimes they're just making happen what you wanted all along.

How many of us wanted to hug a beautiful pussy cat in a pretty dress?

Most of us!

It's a good idea while we're doing this to deal with past bad habits.

Meet the Rangers!

It's been a while since I last looked at an influence on me and this week we look at the section that is for older girls.

Rangers in Girlguiding are children aged 14 to 18 who meet to hang out, learn new skills, and take part in adventures as they move towards womanhood.

What Rangers Do.

Activities and Badges: Members work on interest badges, skills builders, and top awards like the Ranger Gold Award or the Duke of Edinburgh's Award. 

Leadership and Volunteering: Many Rangers act as Young Leaders, helping run units for younger sections like Rainbows, Brownies, or Guides. 

Travel and Adventure: The section offers local meetups, UK trips, international travel, and outdoor camps. 

Community Action: Girls make a difference by supporting local causes, speaking out on issues they care about, or joining advocacy panels. 

Apart from all of that you hang out together and have fun!