Identity and rights of the sissy

I used to do things like Tumblr in connection to this life but changes there plus attitudes within and beyond the community when it came what we could show even play or comfort items made trying to post their and not either have your account banned or people just block you made it hardly worth the effort.

I did look into what I consider to be the rights of the sissy,

The right to be addressed as hur/she/hurself and all other sissy pronouns to emphasize hur own identity

The right to have their gender affirmed, being referred to unambiguously as a Gurl

The right to single gender spaces

The right to wear girlie shorts or a skirt at school and at work.

The right of sissies  to adult Female input throughout hur life including spending time just with women and other sissy gurls in female only activities together to help hur grow and find hur sissiness.

The right not to be discriminated against in any programs and employment opportunities, being assessed purely on hur abilities compared to others for the task and nothing else.

It doesn't matter that I and others may have a feminine side because that doesn't invalidate his rights and our existance should not be used to question hur and because I may wear a skirt doesn't make me a girl demanding her privileges. 

Just to be with and of use to her.

Outdoor maths lesson by the very kind of man or woman most of us would look up to in flash.

“For Sissies”  is an electric sign we need to be prepared to stand up for because whatever certain usually people say, Sissies ARE are Gender distinct from Girls which while individual variations exist, in general they graduate toward similar hobbies, interests and like the company girls they do not see themselves as being or wishing to take the role of girls.

Your role is to help us be who we are.

To me it is sad that we seem to be going backwards in this regard. 

When I was growing up in the 70’s, the goal was to achieve a society in which a male or a female might do or become anything they wanted, without their sexual identity being questioned. Boys could play with dolls, girls could climb trees, anyone could wear anything they wanted or do anything they wanted, without it impacting what we now call “gender.” It was a great goal. 

I could and have every right to wear a skirt and to play with dolls as part of expressing the more feminine side  of me as much as I could the rough and tough side cos they're all me.

If you want to get a feel for what that movement was about, listen to Marlo Thomas’ , Free to Be You and Me, a famous series of songs recorded to help introduce children to this concept. Boys can cry, girls can compete in races…nothing you say or do changes what you inherently are.

Our conversation about gender appears to have taken a step backwards. Once more we are talking about ‘male’ and ‘female’ behaviours, and suggesting that if one gender does something associated with the other gender, the gender must be wrong. Once more we are creating boxes to define and contain gender identity, and if you step outside the box, it is deemed a denial of that identity.

Some men like to wear women’s clothing. Some girls disdain traditional “feminine” activities. The first group are still men, and the second still girls. We don't see ourselves as girls trapped in boys bodies but a species apart that share much with girls to the point we may be more effeminate than the way females may act upon.

We do them a terrible disservice when we read deeper things into that. 

I did have a love of flowers and some collectable porcelain dolls of various girls which in that era wasn't very cool to admit to other boys which was a shame, I liked to wear skirts as much as shorts but that didn't mean I had a deep seated need to change my sex because I was happy with what I had but needed the gender space of the sissy I am to be me.

We may present more as "Little Girls", School girls or our older more mature sisters depending on what is within us. And that's okay.

Making space to be...US

The world we may want to live in may be different to where we are able to be at because of health or disabilities related reasons or it might be with difficult situations you are having to share space with people who don't necessarily understand that we are sissies and need to be ourselves.

Is it wrong then to think a bit about what we'd like and how we might find a way of expressing ourselves as challenging as life can be?

That might be how we'd like to have our bedrooms, full of cute stuffies, figurines and draws to keep our frillies in.

Is it possible to have a small space for some of your own with maybe a strategically placed covering we can be pulled down when others who aren't so appreciative might be around or a cleaner might come in?

Perhaps look at a more concealed wardrobe space where our dresses and uniforms might be hung  out of sight of visitors or window cleaners,

It's not that anything is wrong with us, far from it, but about looking at making being us more possible in the world we're living in.

kk

Feminine May

May, that month that forms the bridgehead between the awakening of Spring and the glorious sun of Summer moves forward with its calendar comprising of two bank holidays and for many of us the memories of learning to dance the maypole gracefully weaving a plait with the girls who seemed more co-ordinated than we did. 

 Twenty-ten is shaping up to be quite a year as we work on my feminine presentation such as wearing these La Senza satin high cut knickers with fully elasticated legs.

The rear is sculptured to present my bottom in a feminine way complete with a frilly lace skirt across the cheeks while the overall impression is that of more mature sophistication

It's not even just all that but wearing short pretty skirts with netting like this Hell Bunny goth one as I let my feminine side right out more like a teen would.

Here it is with hold up stockings with pretty bows

I was encouraged to try wear it with stocking and suspenders to take me completely out of my comfort zone so I could see what I could be like.

Makeovers

A few things have been happening at certain sites such as changes around how long images can be stored  as storage eats capacity and hosting your own costs and  some questions around "lumping in" different scenes such as abdl and sissy that may have some crossover for a minority but most are very much in one camp or the other. 

Makeovers are a thing many of think about, the idea somebody would assist us in making a total transformation of presentation, not just putting on an outfit but make up,maybe a wig and some lessons on deportment as let's be honest if you were socialized as a male your walking and way you stand, pick things up and so on is anything but refined.

You might of fancied something like that when you were younger - it's not uncommon to feel different than your peers - or role playing something on those lines today.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         

It may involve say a trusted friend - perhaps another sissy you know - who knows all about applying make up which isn't something you might of had much experience of when you were younger and first felt this way or a Mistress.

One thing regardless of how it happened is you felt so elated by the experience and anywhere you may have gone as that fully made over sissy that you just fall to sleep, in love with the real you.

Perhaps that's what sissy really needs? 

End April issue

Warm week so have been getting things done a bit in the evenings when it's cooler.

I've been playing with the Viewmaster too so thoughts moved a bit to cartoons we saw on television and often there was reel for the Viewmaster made  and one I'd love would be Scooby Doo which got me thinking.

A sissy makeover for member of the team perhaps?

That's one I'd love to see!

Every little has his plushie even if back in the day we did not call them that that typically came from Aunts although naturally there is no reason an Uncle couldn't buy you one as for that matter could your dad.

Thing is most of us don't want unicorns or things really saturated in pink  cos they're not just comforters but things that we had to play with often with other boys.

This blue Dinosaur plushie really is fine and the there's no earthly reason for me not to have one as a little sissy gurl.

The Viewmaster

Being away last week lead to talking quite a bit with others around childhood experiences, the things we did, the toys we had and all that and really that's what I feel like talking a bit about this week.

One thing I remember having in the 1970's and I'm sure my brothers had one a little before I did was a Viewmaster viewer which is something all those born this century probably have not got a clue about.

Over the decades they came made in plastic or bakelite in variety of colours with some having even a character shaped front such as Mickey Mouse or Hello Kitty.

It was like the one above with two pieces at the front that took in natural light although I think there was a powered model with a mains unit and a pair of eye pieces at the back.

The one I used to have was a beige coloured one that I think left sometime in the 2000's I think and you could get a projector too

What did you use them with I hear you cry?

Actually a card disc with seven pairs of stereo images per disc that you slotted into the viewer  and to which there was a frame advance lever on the side that took them around a pair at a time.

This is one I rebought. from the 70's. A gurl craves what she loved and all that but it was complete which was all I needed.

See the thing was most of us didn't have any kind of video recorder until the early 80's even if your school like mine did have a few, your dad might of had a Super 8 Projector that played film highlights that lasted about 5 minutes before a reel had to changed so this gave us stereo images - some from our favourite cartoons - we could watch anywhere for hours on end.

Anyway Paddington Bear was and is still most cool!

Now those "reels" shown were included in the original set and to which you might of added others from disney cartoons, Hanna-Barbara tv shows, hello kitty or gasp! educational sets about space or different places you could buy with your pocket money.

You soon could build up a good collection and major child interest films nearly always had a Viewmaster release tie-in you bought from the local toyshop or Argos the catalogue shop and today you can find many available used if like some of us you suffered excessive parental tossing out as you got a bit older and would like to buy back your favourites.

The Herbs

Last week was busy with going to the Easter Party last weekend and I had a few things to do  like packing and that.

 The Herbs were an late nineteen-sixties cartoon put together by the same people as Paddington Bear and indeed was written  by Michael Bond himself that I always loved for the  stories of the animals named after herbs such as Parsley the Lion and Dill the Dog and Sir basil and Lady Rosemary.

It doesn't take much for me to start singing:

I'm a very friendly lion called Parsley,

with a tail for doing jobs of every kind,

but I mustn't treat it roughly or too harshly,

for it's such a useful thing to have behind.

 I picked up a couple of dvd's of the show that do play in the Blu Ray machine to watch with Gordon Rollin's narrating when it's too bad to be out.

It can live with my Paddington, Ivor The Engine, Clangers,80's  Dangermouse and Bagpuss discs.