The frills and I

There are two forms of presenting for me and today we'll take a look at the more traditional one.

Normally I tend to talk more about little forms of presenting being simple to put on by a younger you without lots of straps with adjusters, fastenings and the like but as we get a bit older we may wear fussier things for special occasions even if we may need an older sister or grown up to help with it.

Bodices and corsets give shape and that can extend to flowing petticoats not to mention slips and really if you got me on a good day with some support I'd just love to wear teamed with a pretty dress.

They do help in managing my age dysphoria in making me look more how I am on the inside still a junior child and were not an issue although I do like to wear skirts much of the time getting pretty antsy if I can't.

I can wear them in more feminine ways too if I wish.

The bigger thing in being a adult little gurl is following my interests as that sissy and Tom Boys are just the same in reverse.

Pasts

A week back to the usual routines and in some ways a look a bit at pasts and past conversations in lots of ways as after all nothing started from nowhere and most of us who've battled with identity know it's never really that straightforward.

For many of us, our girl friends (not girfriends!) are a bitter-sweet bit of our past, the ones we looked up to the ones whose take on being a girl whither you came to the Ts mode or Sissy mode like me we took the model of feminity and expressing in part at least from. 

Imagine just what it might of been like to have been able to say "I want to be like you and hang out with your friends" just walking to and around school but we knew that wasn't going to happen.

Either we'd bottle out or we'd fear she'd say "Don't be silly, you're just a boy and anyway I have my girlfriends all sorted".

We did the best we could. Jacqueline and I would skip games to chat together and maybe play the odd game in those gender gated days together adoring her.

Others might of thought you wanted to be her boyfriend but you knew it wasn't and she knew you weren't like the boys.

Sometimes all this comes flooding back to you over the years.

Looks 2026 style

It was a rough start to the week here so I thought we'd look a little about presentation and pose cos it matters in this life.

I just love acres of satin with frills with hose.

You might go with a pair of zip up boots and a mini skirt with leather or denim jacket feeling very ahem "hot".

You might like Sweet Lolita although I'd need help in dressing to really pull that off as much as I just love that whole look.

These days we take our clues from Team Pink and maybe they have ideas about how they'd think we'd best look as sissies.

Winter challenges

Recovering from bad cramp having three attempts yesterday to get out of bath after a long really rather indulgent in a good way soak.

There's been a few things going on here in the last week such as a couple of new pieces of equipment in the stereo and the resumption of a monthly magazine whose subscription just seemed to end without any kind of "In a months time your subscription runs out. Please renew to continue" kind of an email at all.

I ended up finding a subscription discount code and renewing by hand.

Seeing last week had it's bitterly code and windy moments I did have to remember to turn the delicates inside out when washing as I had my frilliest lingerie on underneath thick sweat shirts (a pink one) and track pants plus girlie gloves.

Few of us would disagree with that but 41 mph winds up your skirt revealing all to all isn't my idea of fun as much as I'm for being girlie.

Practicality does win out but in winter keep the layers as girl and sissified as you can for inner warmth being you whatever the temperatures might be.

Being out and having special girls know

There comes a point in your life when beyond raiding the dressing up box or the school spare clothing pile you realize there is more to this than just wanting to wear what girls you know and secretly admire do, you need to go a step more girlie and you want them very much in on it.

It doesn't have to be based around more adult themes which generally we don't go into on this blog but it might be being a uber filly femmed gurl in a play pen to play with while the girls look on and maybe play with the plushies with you.

I am becoming more and more a frilly sissy from top to bottom and learning to enjoy it.

You love it as much as it turns you red and feels humiliating but then you might secretly like that whole "caught out" thing.

A more sissified take on games you used to play and love

There again you might of wanted a sibling to see you as you felt you were rather than in the identity Mummy and Daddy had in mind for you and you just don't belong in.

They may want to exhibit you but somewhere down the line between the red cheeks you want to be "out", you almost crave that attention.

I just feel a good number of us do even if we may not feel like taking this to the lengths more full on adult sissy takes which is perfectly fine but it seems daft to deny it

Just enjoy being the sissy you are how it takes you

Now Vault 1982

Now it has warmed up a little  we'll resume on a series of entries from 2024.

In June 2024 Now launched a sub series VAULTS, which aims to cover minor hits of the sort that tended to pad out our Ronco and K Tel sets as much as we may of preferred some of them to the big hits back in the day and also American Hits which unless someone did a American Hit compilation you didn't get so I'd buy the 45's where available.

Issued Friday 16 January, it follows the broad theme of things that for all the music industry talk didn't trouble the top 30 and american hits that weren't in the UK (and should of been I'd add).

Opening the set on disc 1 we have the era-defining style with ‘The Hanging Garden’ from The Cure, taken from their album ‘Pornography’, and Bauhaus with ‘Spirit’ ahead of the collaboration ‘Bamboo Houses’ from David Sylvian & Ryuichi Sakamoto. 

A single in the U.S., ‘Secret Journey’ from The Police comes ahead of ‘Athena’ from The Who, and ‘Valerie’ from Steve Winwood – which would be a bigger hit when remixed five years later and closing the first side a beautiful song – ‘Empty Garden (Hey Hey Johnny)’ from Elton John.

Flipping to side two we have a run of new wave and post-punk gems including from Elvis Costello, The Clash, Theatre Of Hate and Gang Of Four. Melancholic pop from The Teardrop Explodes leads to disc 1's  closers from Mike Oldfield, and a classic ‘Tug Of War’ by Paul McCartney from the album of the same name.

Disc 2 kicks off with a run of pure pop: Culture Club’s ‘I’m Afraid Of Me’ was the single before their #1 breakthrough, and is joined by Spandau Ballet, Level 42, Bananarama and Toyah with a re-recording of her 1980 anthem ‘Ieya’. 

A trio of synth-pop essentials closes the side: Visage with ‘Pleasure Boys’ their third single in 1982, Blancmange with ‘Feel Me’ – their second single, (the next would be their Top 10 breakthrough) and ‘Flowers’ by singer-songwriter Zaine Griff – produced by Hans Zimmer and featuring unmistakable backing vocals by Kate Bush. 

Flipping over the side sees the fusions of Electronic Music with hip hop and disco celebrated, opening with three huge tracks: ‘Planet Rock’ from Afrika Bambaataa & The Soul Sonic Force, the floor-filling ‘Loopzilla’ from George Clinton and ‘Let It Whip’ a Top 5 U.S. smash from the Dazz Band – ’82 R&B from Aretha Franklin leads into retro-influenced pop from Mari Wilson and a jazz-influenced club classic from Blue Rondo A La Turk. The LP finishes with Imagination who created one of 1982’s essential albums with ‘In The Heat Of The Night’, from which this title track was taken as a single.

The concluding disc celebrates what was happening in the U.S. in 1982 on its first side. ‘Atlantic City’ from Bruce Springsteen’s ‘Nebraska’ leads, ahead of huge stars Billy Joel and John Mellencamp. 

1982 would be the year that Daryl Hall & John Oates broke through in the UK with two Top 10 hits – but here featuring their U.S. Top 10 ‘Did It In A Minute’, plus, Michael McDonald who hit the Top 5 in the States with his debut solo single ‘I Keep Forgettin’ while Quarterflash leads into Asia, who had the year’s biggest selling album in America, and Journey with their biggest hit, the massive ballad ‘Open Arms’ from their Escape album.

The final side opens with an instrumental theme to a TV series U.S. Police drama ’Hill Street Blues’ ran for six years and peaked in popularity in 1982 – with its theme by Mike Post featuring  Larry Carlton spending over five months on the chart, hitting the Top 10 in the U.S. and #25 in the UK. Fun Boy Three hit with their cover of ‘Summertime’, which comes ahead of Grace Jones and Men At Work. 

This is followed by U.S. new wave from The Go-Go’s, The Waitresses, and The B-52s and closing the collection Siouxsie And The Banshees’ stunning interpretation of the traditional French carol, ‘Il Est Ne Le Divin Enfant’.

This set just fits nicely between my original Ronco, K Tel and Telstar compilations and the rather good Now Yearbook 1982 set, rounding out that years great colourful sounds.

Be the doll!

A few well-being issues today, scratch that, since the weekend so it's gonna be short and sweet.

I like playing although there are times when other events do rather take over that you can do little about, they may be craft kits, lego, which in it's original form was only limited by your own imagination rather than the vast amounts of movie and tv tie-in sets they've issued over the last fifteen or so years.

There are those things we hug and involve in stories we act out such as our teddy bears, hello kitties and dolls.

Dolls do matter for gurls, as it's often our springboard to seeing what who looks may be like and where we might wear them as soft pastel outfits wouldn't do for fetching the coal in or doing a bit of gardening as much as we might feel like a million dollars dressed like that.

We may experiment with hair fashions too and a vast array of accessories but you know where it ends up for many of us?

Before you know it, we work on becoming the doll and didn't we just want that from our drab pasts, a total change so let's make 2026, the hear of being the dolly we love, upping our femming!