Where does Tammy a sissy gurl belong?

After the usual Christmas and New Year posts on here we get very much back into regular blogging on here

People sometimes give you the impression they really don't know what to quite make of you and just where you do fit in given that much of the social world does revolve around the fact there are boys and there are girls who will often break into groups that are just for them.

This works well for most people and it is really quite foolish and arrogant for anyone who doesn't fit within the overwhelming majority to expect them to totally restructure society just for us.

What I wish for is the ability to make a consistent choice  over which group I join that having done so I am not altering the very nature of it  just playing a part within that group talking about and maybe doing things within it.

And to be respected within it.

The bottom line is Tammy is  a Sissy Gurl and I know I am NOT a girl and have no inclination to want to be a girl, not least an adult Woman and I have never made it as a boy and even less as a Man.

If as was often the case at school I was in a Girls group, I deferred to them allowing the group to be a girls group that allowed a Sissy Gurl me into it saving me the bigger issues of being in Boys groups I had even less in common with because I was and am feminine.

Those girls had real authority over me but it worked for them and for me.

The non academic things we learn in school

 

I had an image of  your boarding school boy in my head of "Boris the Bold" leading on with the entire forms tuck box  saying "This could be jolly handy later on in my life".

In a way while we do have the ability to change, much of who we are is well established by the time we've left school that there is a lot to said for looking at the kinds of opportunities that can help people develop life skills while at it rather just a preoccupation with the academic as much as I don't give anyone who  doesn't value that an easy ride at all.

It may be something like being the Captain of a sports team or say running a club during recess, getting others involved, showing how to do things more effectively or fixing the competitions or presentation for say parents day.

These kinds of things do actually help like for example in my school we had a after school time gym class a friend run, taking the contributions, setting out equipment and exercises.

They were hardly well off, frankly my family was more well off than hers but she did an excellent job of it and so she had something to say about herself for when she left school because she demonstrated skills and abilities that people especially employers are looking for.

She really impressed me and within our school she wasn't alone either.

One thing I tend to think is having either all girl or boy settings means it is more likely everyone will take those opportunities sensing they need to be done rather than just assuming "The girls will do that" or "we'll leave that to the boys of form V" because they will need to take ownership apart from making each group more in tune with what its members want as trying to run something co-ed doesn't always work well.

Gender Spaces and the sissy

Another week and one update to Pale Moon and that still hasn't cured the browser of freezing over so we're still in Firefox which as much as I don't like the interface does work very well.

Spaces are a contentious issue as anyone on Tumblr knows only too well and some of that also applies into off line life too as well as what people do when we allow them into our own.

One area I think worth talking about is gender spaces where yes most of us say people should be free to mix with whoever they want, take part in activities together and not be barred from an activity just because of their gender. 

This you might think is the end product of decades of arguments won when it comes to equal opportunities and as such the very last word but today it's not.

Unlike perhaps a few of you I've been in the work place and it isn't uncommon for female employees to actually have their own social groups that they keep to just women going out together or spending time at each others places.

Even in 2018 here in Great Britain there are Universities that only accept women being founded expressly for female higher education and women have voted to keep them that way because they prefer an all female ethos and under English Law at at least a private members club can be all female only too.

Part of the argument is it is nice to have a place just to talk and share things with without men around who as nice as they are would  change the feel just  by being there and maybe inhibit conversations people need.

The same can be true for Women and Girls but where does it leave people like me, sissies with some connections through upbringing to the experience of men and boys and yet in so many other ways drawn to the world of girls and women cos we're so feminine?

As someone who is age dysphoric in this new-old life given my interest in and love of scouting connected activities it isn't the oh so real issues of children who don't fit into the pigeonholes of boy and girl when it comes to being it it - Girl Guiding or Scouts - it's also within my recreated version I belong too.

All I know is Scouts as in Cubs, that's comfortable as it goes but I'd sooner wear something more feminine outside hiking so outside hiking would it make more sense to wear a period brownie uniform?

It's all stuff I'm mulling over.

Perhaps more give and take on gender spaces rather than battle cries might better suit our needs?