Love and understanding in littlespace

 

Reading the commentary box of a adult little comic recently showed some discussion around how as an adult and your caregiver is important.

When a person sets out in their little/middle age regressed to build not so much on being emotionally that person playing but in the return of those structures and relating patterns that more mirror those of child to Parent such as a "Caregiver/little" there can be a difference between your sense of needing and wanting it as that little and being ready emotionally for the 'rolling back' when it comes to having that final say and certain of facets such as what you may be doing or how you are to to present yourself in their company.

This is something that the Caregiver needs to be aware of, talking through respecting limits even if over time they may change not seeing this as a automatic disrespect issue between little and Caregiver and treated accordingly

This is something in a less structured matter of fact way is talked through  between those adults in my life who assume Caregiver roles and myself all the time so they know my limits and I am clear on what we have agreed on.

When in their company I am very much that little/middle and this is my relating style personified not least when there is any question as to my conduct to the as Caregiver(s) very much their 'child' to whom all this happens not just because it is the authentic me but because they love me so much that they enable that side to present and be acted on by them as that child.

As that 'child' they look after me with all those expectations and rules that I stand attentively  deferring to them as my adult authorities as they scold and spank me as they feel appropriate.

Sometimes it is hard for some to understand that actually that allowing me that space to be and present as little/middle me and this other side are connected but actually they are.

Their scolding and spanking me is a reflection their love for me, that they know I can do better and need to be corrected to move me on, the very same love that allows me to be little me.

My spanked bottom is an  a sign of that that we all should be glad of.

Going down a peg and xmas preparations

When we talk about LSG life, we need to remember it is based upon actual girls life as much as may like and have some boys elements from your past in it and your social position within it not least the hierarchy and so like him we are below the Grown Ups who are in control nurturing, guiding and protecting us.

It's no more for us to manipulate or get one over our caregivers or others as it is for him because we've decided to hand in any adult privileges and responsibilities  within our relationships as LSG's.

Is that all you found in the mailbox then, My Melody?

Around this time of the year I'm busy writing out Christmas Cards for family and friends some of which do have to be mailed out and really this is last week one can rely upon them getting through with second class stamps as first is just way too expensive otherwise.

I'm also busy with wrapping up presents as the way that works with us is each house is a mini distribution depot for one or more others so that person takes all the presents for one with them rather than lots of individual journeys.