The need to look at root causes in dysmorphia

 Dysmorphia is the intense disconnect and feeling of disgust a person may feel toward their own body and it is true that people have been reporting it in terms of Gender Dysphoria although the the term gender isn't really accurate as its about their bodies sex although the confliction is in their heads as they 'see' themselves as a person who isn't of their sex.

Why is it somehow transphobic that we even propose more time and resources to further study gender dysphoria in order to find its root cause?

It's already clear that we know "people don't feel like the body they were born in." But why is it wrong to ask why?

I have lost and ended up losing friends for posing this question

I mean it's not uncommon for people to remain depressed and even commit suicide after transitioning. This has caused many questions for me. I'm started to think perhaps we don't have enough science yet and we don't know the true cure to this dysphoria. So why are we acting like we do?

Is it not possible that to some extent at least their body because the focus of all they feel is wrong or uncomfortable with, that somehow if it were 'fixed' everything would go aright in their lives when in reality no matter what you may do regarding your appearance, actually you're carrying the feelings in your head?

Maybe you've never really been to 'me' and the issue may be more around societal expectations which are limiting which some boys make self limiting by imposing on their rigid behavioural codes?

You may have some qualities traditionally associated with femininity, perhaps you're a nurturing, sensitive kind of a guy who has always felt the jocks and would be drill sergeants bullied, humiliated and intimidated you at high school.

And that left you feeling 'less of a man'.

Actually they may be the less rounded real men than you if you understand it's part of a guys role to care for his family and children and his colleagues as a man.

So actually looking more into this stuff could help people make good choices to move on without the mistakes of transitioning without really understanding you and what's the actual issue.

If like me you are gender fluid and mix in a feminine and a masculine side you probably are more balanced all round anyway.

Our issue is other peoples attitudes and opinion, it certainly isn't us.

The conflict starts

As we have seen so far in while I was quite happy being a boy albeit with a few unstereotypical interests and like looking very like a boy to the point I preferred to stay in grey shorts rather than  the longs high school required when not sneaking on skirts, there was a problem emerging around how my gender needs as male and a teen boy who would at least legally become a man were being met.

They were not being met which badly effected my self confidence and in a number ways I was being pushed toward a female as norm mindset by people who were supposed to look after me without any help in expressing my increased awareness of being a sissy in a world we didn't officially have a space in.

The other thing was that in all honest I remained a child.

The only thing I was was born a boy albeit one with feminine interests and a penchant for wanting to wear skirts and dresses that were more that of girls rather than being a growing up girl on the cusp of becoming an adult female aka a Woman.

I just preferred to be a sissy gurl rather than an adult man or woman.