Crossing the line

 

From my own perspective you function better and achieve much more in proportion that you are and act from your own selfs needs rather than fighting metaphorically although sadly sometimes literally other peoples attempts to deny them and substitute their own.

One reads of parents of teens some even past 18 and thus legally adults finding that their attire has been binned, ripped up with attempts to keep them in away from friends and any social media they had used or work colleagues saying things but insisting they don't want any drama when it is they that actually are making it by raising their objections to even having nail polish on you where any woman would without question.

To me those sorts of things should be raised with people such as the police where laws are being broken  (taking another's items is theft) and human resources where people are being bullied and intimidated for just being different.

In order for me to feel good and work at my best I just need to be my feminine gurl self.

That's how to cross the winning line.

The school age sissy

Something I do care a lot about are children, specifically those assigned as boys at birth who find everything connected around gender doesn't actually feel anything like them not least because I was one.

In my day the dividing line between acceptable boys behaviour, mannerisms, dress and interests and that of girls was heavily policed both by boys and girls in the playground, organizations, and adults such as parents, teachers and medical professionals.

Parents would berate, remove items deemed unsuitable, physically punish, teachers tended to ridicule you in front of your peers and some medical professions co-operated with enforced gender norm programs making some of us who were more gender questioning wear boys items, removing anything girls had least we become "sissies"

Equally girls could find themselves forced to wear dresses against their wishes, prevented rom doing things like climb trees.

The thing really was deep down, we are what we are having our own sense of gender identity, how we see our own gender roles and how we feel best gender presenting.

I feel "boys" who don't wish to wear traditional boys school uniform should have the option to wear girls and equally any "girl" should have the option to wear that of boys so long as you're fairly consistent over it and where possible able to share in games and PT with those you feel more comfortable with in non competitive settings.

That was all this sissy wanted in school and in scouting.

Not to change the "culture" of any group nor to usurp the majority groups own identity but to able to join in as I am.

Tammy always existed but was discriminated against, humiliated  and denied what was right for hur and in 2021 stands up for children today facing similar situations.

Disability and Discipline

 

There is one subject that I'd like to talk about on this blog which I do have views on.

While good arguments can be made for punishing people for things they could do but didn't especially if they had negative consequences for others, I do feel it is wrong to punish somebody for something that they had little or no control over such as stammering, being unable to write neatly, forgetting because of memory problems and so on.

This was something I did see occasionally in school and quite often in the workplace where it was just presumed everybody there had no disabilities and from that there were no excuses period for not being able or struggling with a task.

What as individual you needed was either support in the the task or or some extra tuition to master a task on a one to one basis which was something I had to fight tooth and nail for even at the risk of alienating some colleagues who though this help for me was somehow a threat or  unfairness to them.

Not  work reviews that seemed to be every other week sapping your confidence or any chastisement that if we'd of just refused to do right would of been justified and disability shouldn't prevent you for getting it.