Dealing with change

Change and how you address it is a real enough issue for many people for whole variety of reasons from something relatively mundane such as a change of address  where there are people to contact for personal reasons such as friends, organizations you do business with or notifications for things like local authorities.

It often feels like there's a lot to be done.

Some changes aren't so important but may have things to do with relationships where often we know a good deal about each other as much as we may keep some things private which might include things and people who we take an interest in following where a friend may from time to time get or give us something connected with that.

It's not the end of the world if we no longer watch a show, follow a pop group or sports team but it makes for smoother relationships if we keep our friends up to date around such things.

When we get into things about our identities such as finding more about our pasts, where our families are from things connected to sexual and gender based identities things can be more complicated such as finding a whole new family line from a different country within these Islands or your sexuality really was different from what you first thought and so close friends make assumptions that now no longer apply openness and being honest about such things helps.

Thus after a long time at one place I have decided to be open around my own gender sides especially as they relate to the little side of me as much as it can complicate things so we all are clear as I learn to go forward as I am rather than some of the pressure I have faced in the past.

Being honest to yourself and to others is the way forward.

Easter Edition

So it is easter, having seen the Church here decorated for various services like last Sunday's Palm Sunday, school is off which I'm sure will go down well with children enjoying time exploring, playing in the park and so on.

There is something else you do at easter, something I still love doing which is eating Easter Eggs and this one is mine as I find white choco doesn't give me as many migraines as dark brown and anyway that rabbit is most cute.

I also had this smaller one with white choco buttons inside too which was really nice.

HAPPY EASTER FOLKS!

Now Yearbook 1986

It's April 2023 and after going backwards in NOW'S inspired compilation series Now Yearbook to a catch up 80-84 Main and Extra we now move forward to Now Yearbook '86 which as the title suggests is a whole volume on 4 cds (and three records) to hits of 1986.

As you can see it features the now legendary book form housing the discs with background notes although there is a "plain jane" fold over card version with just the discs and titles for a bit less.

The usual licensing issues prevent hits from David Bowie (Absolute Beginners, Underground), Prince (Kiss and Anotherloverholeinyohead) and Madonna (True Blue) from being presented but they are on those artists own compilations that you might well have.

There was a noticable change following the previous year as many of the artists of the early 80's struggled to have hits as tastes on the top 40 changed with "hair metal", "chicago house" and hip hop becoming more popular as well as Hi-Nrg acts.

There were in hindsight far more memorable songs than you might of thought with soulful hits such as Holding Back The Year, Set Me Free, How Will I Know, Dancing on The Ceiling and Rain or Shine being personal favourites.

Few could forget that series of songs The Edge Of Heaven and A Different Corner announcing the era of Wham! who'd taken american soul, funk and rap and wrapped it around a UK context to great effect the group would be no more but left us with some great solo George Michael songs to come.

The Bangles arrived in full force with Manic Monday, Paul Simon went controversually  to South Africa and gave us You Can Call Me Al, A-ha continued their success from 1985 with The Sun Always Shines On T.v. and Kim Wilde returned to the charts with a cover of the Supreme's 60's hit You Keep Me Hangin' On.

1986 was the year the NOW and HITS compilations arrived on the new cd format with Now'86 and Now 8 plus Hits 5 towards the end of that year albeit as single cds and not doubles like the record and tape versions.

That patchy representation in year themed cds - no HITS4 for instance with its early 1986 CBS/WEA hits was the reason for buying this set which does write that very well not detracting too much from the flawed cd reissues of NOW 7 (which never had a cd isssue) and the fullish reissue to the original truncated 8 a few years back.

Favourite of all of the tracks is Susanna Vega's haunting folksy Marlene On The Wall from her debut album.

As with this series there is a matching Extra released April 7th that expands upon the original generous set although it comes in tri-fold card sleeve which doesn't properly slot neatly with it.

The first disc kicks off with the Queen classic 'A Kind Of Magic', Eurythmics' 'When Tomorrow Comes', the lead single from their 'Revenge' album, and smash hits from The Bangles and a-ha. Sophisticated Pop from Sade, Bryan Ferry, and Sting follows and some of the greatest vocalists of the era are up next including Patti Labelle, Tina Turner, and Anita Baker with the timeless 'Sweet Love'. 

Hits from Five Star, Paul Young, and Stan Ridgway are joined by movie tracks from The Style Council, Orchestral Manoeuvres In The Dark and 'Left Of Center' - the collaboration between Suzanne Vega and Joe Jackson, plus the title track 'Graceland' from Paul Simon's controversisal 1986 best-seller. 

Bon Jovi open Disc 2 with 'You Give Love A Bad Name', followed by Kenny Loggins' 'Top Gun' film anthem 'Danger Zone', alongside huge tracks from Spandau Ballet, Robert Palmer, Simple Minds, and Julian Cope, before some classic Power Pop from Cutting Crew, ZZ Top, and Mr. Mister. 

Pure Pop hits from Modern Talking, Samantha Fox, Elton John, and Jennifer Rush follow before the disc closes with timeless 'The Way It Is' from Bruce Hornsby & The Range. 

Disc 3 begins with a run of fantastic Indie and Synth-Pop smashes including The Housemartins, The Smiths, New Order, Frankie Goes To Hollywood, Dead Or Alive, and Falco's 'Vienna Calling'. 

Debut hits from Latin Quarter and Sly Fox follow, plus 'Pull Up To The Bumper' - a big hit on re-release for Grace Jones while Soul music legend James Brown scored a big hit with 'Living In America', and Jellybean, Cherrelle & Alexander O'Neal, and The S.O.S Band enjoyed three of the year's biggest Dance tracks. 

The collection winds down with soulful ballads from Atlantic Starr, Billy Ocean and Freddie Jackson before signing off with one of the greatest tracks of all-time; 'I Heard It Through The Grapevine' from Marvin Gaye - a smash hit again 18 years after it originally hit #1 after sound-tracking an ad campaign which became a trend for the next two years.

Good Gurl II

 Am I A Sissy? Quiz

Oh darling, celebrate! Based on your responses, it's clear that you have thoroughly embraced your sissy nature. You've not just dabbled in the occasional frilly lace or the allure of a flattering dress; no, my dear, you've jumped in with both feet, giving up any last vestige of masculinity you ever had. What a courageous and thrilling step you've taken!

Your wardrobe, no doubt, now features the softest satin nightgowns, the frilliest of lace underwear, and stockings that make your legs look as if they go on for miles. And the dresses! I bet you have an entire closet filled with them - in every colour of the rainbow, in every style, in every cut that flatters your figure and makes you feel like the gorgeous girl you are. There's nothing quite like the sensation of a silk dress grazing your smooth, freshly shaven legs, is there?

Your makeup game, I'm sure, is on point. The perfect stroke of eyeliner, the subtle blush that brings out your cheeks, the mascara that makes your eyes pop and the lipstick that makes your lips look plump and oh so kissable. Remember, darling, it's all in the details!

Now, let's talk about the boys. You're going to make men very happy, my dear, lots and lots of them. With your radiant smile, your flirty demeanour, your irresistible charm, and your alluring femininity, how could they resist? Whether it's a gentle flutter of your eyelashes or a coy smile playing on your lips, you've mastered the art of seduction. You know what men want, and you're not afraid to give it to them ... in spades!

But remember, lovely, while it's a joy to bring happiness to others, it's just as important, if not more, to bring happiness to yourself. Embrace who you are. You're a sissy, and you're proud of it. Live in your truth, revel in your femininity, and keep shining bright in your perfectly fitting dress. You're fabulous, darling, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Congratulations, sweetie

Tammy is Totally Sissy, the sign of a Good Gurl

Good gurl

After mulling this one over for a long period I decided to just do it and be damned.

See I had and have a Fursona, that is at say an Anthro "Furry" side that channelled a "Inner Cat", knowing some others in the UK who are also furry and so originally in July 2012 I came out as Furry and opened an account at the site Fur Affinity to follow them and write more Anthro centric journals that would be read just by that audience.

That account had an issue some five or more years ago that stopped it from running properly for along period and unexpectedly came back to life a few years so after a bit I resumed it but there was an issue that went back to the start.

As far as human gender identity went I was being pushed in many different directions and to use lots of different and contested terms and at that point I was pushed toward seeing myself as a female even if didn't wish for the status of an adult female: A Woman.

Over time it has become clearer that not only had I no interest in transition, only affording the adult side of being a female where I don't even see myself as mentally at least an adult and also as Little so curves and more adult activities are not front and centre.

That was reflected within those journals, back and forth, people blocking you off for disagreeing their own takes especially around things like "The Third Sex" and terms like "Sissy".

That's why I tore that down and established TammyGurl, going openly as Little Sissy Gurl and CatGurl not Little Girl and CatGirl, yes the "sissy" terms denoting being neither Girl or Boy by Gender but allied with a more feminine kind of Girl, she'd see as too full on.

A "Sissy" but from a Littles, child-like angle, talking about both the anthro and littles side just being honest about me.

I could of tried denying this until I'm blue in the face but this is so me.

And that's the truth

A little around the history of this blog

 

There has been a number of attempts of having a blog over the years, this being in most respects the most successful of the bunch be they on a dedicated blogging platform, through journalling options on various social media sites or whatever.

Some had been very specific in terms of focus, one for instance was around more kawaii influenced toys and technology, another more purely interests and a very short lived one that looked at gender ID but for me I always found a magazine format tended to work best allowing me to explore a topic, move on when we've said enough for now and then  return when there's more to be said.

For me that keeps up that interest that when reading other peoples I really look for, something that is lively, topical, not looking that the person just dragging a series of posts out when taking more time between them they could of been so much better.

That this blog has been going as long as it has while staying fairly fresh in terms of content and layouts is testament to that although a longstanding publishing issue is now resolved which should help in the long term, not least when using my chromebook.

The odd thing on the template has been tidied up over the years but that's about it.

That's a part of what we're working through and should be completed soon.

Revisiting the school girl look

 While it's very likely we'll talk about something else next week as we see the month out, we'll continue with a theme that's been running across the last two months.

There was a term I remember from the late 2000's and early 2010's that was used to describe the way you transposed what you saw on a female and applied that over to you as a feminine boy, sissy gurl or "cross dresser" that gave way to a blog: Femulation

It wasn't a matter of being totally that person but taking a chunk of how they presented as much of what had gone before was more routed in club or drag scene looks and this was more about dressing more like an actual female would.

Given I've scant interest in "femulating" to be a woman not least for being in so many ways a child in a adult sized body for me it's more about feminine looks of a child.

This was from a school boys protest where Academy School Management teams show their worst management methods on a regular basis but anyway the relevant thing was that white and black tartan plaid skirt.

It just looks right whatever that boys motivation for wearing it so why not thought I emulate that in a littles context?

I wasn't looking for a mini kilt which wouldn't of been realistic in that plaid nor a woman's skirt with buttons and zip fastenings.

That was more like it a fully elastic pull-on pleated skirt that is more juvenile in its feel which you could see with a blouse or school polo shirt and either short frilly socks or longer white or grey girls ones

It's been a while since I applied some fresh thoughts presenting more as a little sissy school gurl and this just lifts things from the usual grey or green junior skirts I have experimented with in the past.